So you’ve been playing WoW for a while. You’re probably into raiding, but not necessarily. Something happened last week. You don’t know what triggered it (or perhaps you do), but you realised you’re just not into WoW that much anymore. What do you do?
I’ve seen this plenty of times. It’s most obvious with the higher profile guild roles like guild leader, raid leader, officers and to a lesser extent your core raiders. The player isn’t online as much anymore. They probably just turn up to raid and then log off.
Perhaps they take a break from Wow for a few weeks. I’m not talking about the players who go AFK due to holidays/work/school/etc. I mean the ones that actually say stuff like, “i’m taking a break from WoW for a while’ or just say nothing.
No one hears from them. No one knows what happened or if they are coming back or anything. Some players become concerned about the missing players absence. Guild organisers are left wondering if/how they should be managing the situation. Should they be recruiting to replace the person who stopped logging on two weeks ago. Or perhaps just demote them to a social rank for the time being and hope they come back.
What no one, except the player, realises is that your regular raider has quit wow. Perhaps they are bored and have found another game. Perhaps they have real life stuff which precludes all WoW playtime. There is always a reason, but no one knows it.
Don’t be that player!
Guilds all have a social atmosphere of some description. Most players who participate in this guild community have established relationships with other players. If you are leaving the community by quitting WoW don’t terminate those relationships abruptly and just leave the other halves of them dangling, wonder what is going on.
There are a few very basic things you can do to make quitting WoW easier for all.
1) Decide what you are going to do. Perhaps you need to stand down from being raid leader (or insert other position of responsibility) and become a social guild member for a while.
Don’t go through the motions. WoW is a game. It is supposed to be fun. If you are not having fun do not play. If you don’t want to raid for a while or even play WoW anymore, make that decision. Don’t just turn up to raids, week after week, because you think is expected of you.
2) Once you have made your decision tell someone. At the very least whisper someone. Ideally use the in-game mail to send an email to you guild leader or raid leader. That way if they are busy or AFK they aren’t going to miss it. Posting on your guild forums is another option.
3) Do it! Do what you said you were going to do. Do not make excuses about leaving the guild and then turn up a week later in another guild. This gives you a bad reputation and annoys people. If you want to change guilds follow this process – make the decision, tell someone and then do it.
Here are a couple of examples. I’m not naming names and if you know who i’m talking about don’t take this as anything other than an example of what i’ve outlined above.
Two core raiders (a husband and wife team) suddenly stop logging on. Both are good raiders and valued members of the raid team. No one knows what is going on. The pair get demoted to social status and are almost kicked from the guild after a couple of months of not logging on. Guild leadership starts recruiting to permanently replace them.
Suddenly they reappear to announce they’ve had a child. Great news and much rejoicing! They may not care, but unfortunately it will take them a fair while to get back onto the A Team, as they are now considered unreliable (not because they had a child, but because they didn’t communicate with anyone).
All they needed to do was to log and send an in-game mail to one of the guild leadership team saying that they’ve had/are having a baby and won’t be around for a few months at least. Problem solved. They probably still get demoted to social status, but now the guild looks forward to them returning and hearing about their new arrival.
A second example is a little more complex. A guild leader and his partner, who is an officer, want to take a break from WoW for a while. They may or may not actually intend to quit, but they at least need a break. They have communicated this with the other officers in the guild, but the unwashed masses are starting to wonder what is going on. Why isn’t their guild leader online anymore?
A guild with an AFK guild leader is in a vulnerable position. Players start to lose confidence in the direction of the guild. If you are planning on taking a significant break from WoW pass the guild leadership to one of the established officers. Communicate with the guild. Let them know you are taking a couple of months away from the game and you’re not sure if you will be back. The more stable guilds will absorb this information and move on. Fear of the unknown, i.e. what is happening with the leadership of the guild can be quite bad for raider morale.
Hmm, this is starting to look a bit like i’m having a ranty, so i’ll finish up.
If you’re quitting WoW make the decision, communicate it to someone in your guild and then do it. Don’t disappear mysteriously and without warning or turn up to your WoW job and be unhappy about it. As I said above,
WoW is a game. It is supposed to be fun. If you are not having fun do not play.